A Lesson Learned

This week I was the recipient of a gift of someone’s time to help me with an over-whelming job (for me) of weeding my two large flower gardens. I was surprised to have a friend ring my doorbell and refuse to come in, as she was there only to spend ½ hour weeding for me.  That half hour turned into over 45 minutes and a return visit to my garden before 7:00 a.m. next morning to finish the job.

Being alone for all these years, I have learned to be very independent, so it is not easy for me to accept help from others.  I suffered a back injury in a fall backwards down some stairs and also have fibromyalgia, so many tasks that I have easily done in the past have become very difficult and painful.

The gist of this tale is to tell you of two incidents involving blessings and acceptance.   Many years ago, my family was invited to a home for an evening meal to celebrate another friend’s birthday.  My daughter (whom many of you know) is a very talented person and one of those talents is cake decorating. She had decorated a beautiful cake as dessert for the occasion, but the birthday guest insisted on paying for the cake.  When I say insisted, that is putting it mildly.  We finally accepted the money, as our daughter had spent much time and energy on the decorating.   But, let me tell you, the feeling of pleasure and joy in giving I felt was slowly seeping away, and it became a sad memory for me.

Fast forward to when I, being alone and a widow, was the recipient of a certain act of kindness.    I mentioned this to a long-time friend  (won’t call him an “old friend” because he may read this and remember)  ;>) .    I felt I needed to do something to repay the act of kindness and this person said and I quote “ DON’T ROB THEM OF THEIR BLESSING, FAYE”.   I have thought of that many times since and realize God is the provider and deliverer of such acts.  Not that the person(s) giving is not selfless and giving, but our Heavenly Father is always aware of our needs and those who He has in mind to answer those needs.

Yes, I am often the recipient of acts of kindness and yes, I feel blessed by God and loved by friends and grandchildren who give so willingly of their time to help me.   To me TIME is a gift that outweighs monetary or other gifts as I know that TIME is never regained and at times is given at a sacrifice to the giver.

My lesson learned was to accept the gift and the giver with thankfulness and give the Glory to God for bringing that person into my life.  I write this so IF you are not good at receiving from others, you might think again the next time someone reaches out a helping hand and just say “THANK YOU” and give the Glory to God………….

 And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.- 2 Corinthians 9:8


By | 2018-07-20T00:31:02+00:00 July 18th, 2018|Over My Shoulder|3 Comments

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  1. Trudie July 19, 2018 at 12:03 am - Reply

    Thanks for this, Faye. What a great reminder.

  2. Linda Stoehr July 20, 2018 at 12:21 am - Reply

    I loved this story as it home for me. I am used to doing everything myself and it is difficult at times to accept help. I will remember to not take the blessing away from the giver.

  3. Brenda Graham July 21, 2018 at 11:56 pm - Reply

    I appreciate your sharing this story Faye! I, too, like to be independent & find it difficult to accept help at times.
    Being a widow myself, I understand how blessed we are when we’re unable to do something minor or mundane, but someone else steps in & shares their service capabilities with you & just want to see your smile in payment. Blessed are the meek!

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